Delayed pain hurts more.
I think we all learned this as kids when we badly stub our toes for the first time. You look down at the already swelling toe – not feeling anything – and 10 seconds later, that screaming pain suddenly hits your brain. You collapse into whatever chair is handy and *howl*.
It’s like the pain picks up friends along your nerve endings along the way. All of them carrying clubs & wearing leather vests and bad attitudes.
It goes without saying that the same is true for emotional pain. If you delay feeling something, dealing with it – or it is delayed by another force – it hurts worse once you actually sit down with it. It sidles up, whaps the back of your head like an overeager bully and proceeds to beat the crap out of you; for no other reason than you ignored it.